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I haven't read any of the scientific literature, because I'm just not that interested in child development, but that's pretty much what is meant by "arrested development". There's an arc of emotional growth for a child that goes from the entirely self-centric viewpoint of an infant to the ability to see yourself from another perspective and to project yourself into another person's worldview. Some children don't go all the way -- whether from childhood traumas or some innate limitation of the brain. They stall out and are incapable of this more complex emotional/social thought.
They always remind me of the song in which a scathing putdown is unleashed by young Janine when her creepy cousin, Dupree, wonders how she can resist him for "just one more day."
Perhaps, to the incels, the charming ugly men who can get dates don't count because their dates aren't "Stacys".
I missed the last vocab-update, those were all new to me.
I think the concept for which he is blindly trying to grasp is something like this insight from Yuval Noah Harari's Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind:I missed the last vocab-update, those were all new to me.
Think I'll leave updates turned off, I'm not liking the direction their use of language is going.
To be sure, those of us who were born in the 1950s saw quite a lot of movie stars, athletes, models and entertainers on TV, billboards and in movies, but images presented by these media were nowhere so ubiquitous as are the images on our laptops and smartphones, and neither were we expected to try to compete with them on a notionally level playing field by presenting carefully curated versions of ourselves on social media, thus setting ourselves up (at least in our own minds) for failure because we simply don't all look like supermodels or actors, and certainly exposing ourselves to the risk of cruel mockery by our peers.
I think "incel"is short for "involuntary celibate", not "intentional celibate".
Yup, as soon as they realise it’s involuntary, it becomes more and more intentional with every excuse they make.
I am glad I was born when I was. I did most of my stupid stuff before the Internet became a thing. But you're exactly right: Whereas before, if you did something stupid, maybe 20 people witnessed it and spread it to their friends and, in most cases, it was forgotten about in a matter of days. Nowadays, if you do something stupid, at least one person caught it with their smartphone and posted it on Youtube (or whatever kids are using these days) to be witnessed by millions for all eternity. The stakes for being young and dumb, or committing a major fashion faux pas, are enormously high, and can haunt you for the rest of your life.
