On the bus to work, I was talking about games and recreation with another regular rider and she mentioned Second Life and later I looked it up and couldn't really figure it out and was kind of put off by the warning that "you can never change your name". I read about it online and eventually downloaded it and created an account and did Welcome Island and then just decided to fly in one direction (east, I think) to see what I could find. Someone gave me a bottle of Jack Daniels, and some people were dancing on a beach and invited me to join them. After a while, I continued east, and ran into Lusk and Tehama, which were interesting. I saw a red and blue poseball at a bench, labelled "sitter" and "friend," respectively. I tried both and concluded that the friend was engaged in an oral sex act with the sitter.
And the scales dropped from my eyes and I immediately started working on improving my avatar's appearance, getting better skin and clothes, editing appearance obsessively, and learning how to use that "search" function.