Debrett's issue new handbook on correct form, manners and etiquette in the digital age

[Innula Zenovka]

Debrett’s handbook includes tech etiquette in new coronation edition

If manners maketh man, to quote the motto of the prime minister’s alma mater, then there is nothing that mucketh up the modern man’s manners more than the mobil

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Members of VVO, of course, won't need it since we all know how to behave anyway, but the update is clearly long-overdue considering the sort of people we in the UK have had in government, or who have been elevated to the peerage, in recent years.

It advises people to switch off their phones in theatres, galleries and cinemas, not look at screens while buying something at a till and to put them away at the dinner table. It is rude to have loud conversations while on a train, or to watch videos or listen to music without headphones.

“Try to curb impetuous texting,” the guide says, “and pause to re-read before sending. Don’t rely on emojis to convey nuanced information. Although not always used in texts, punctuation adds clarity.” Capital letters in emails, it advises, “may look over-insistent”.

Among other modern malaises, the handbook tackles using social media in company (“Do not obviously carry a phone round and keep checking it”), manspreading on transport (“Do not sit with your knees wide apart as if to show who is king of the jungle”) and the importance of telling your parents that you have become engaged before announcing it on Twitter

 

[Isabeau]

Seems so obvious, however...

 

[Innula Zenovka]

Seems so obvious, however...

So much of what's called "good manners" is simple consideration for others. Same applies to "political correctness" and "wokeness," I think.

 

[GoblinCampFollower]

So much of what's called "good manners" is simple consideration for others. Same applies to "political correctness" and "wokeness," I think.

A LOT of good advice is just "obvious" stuff that is very easy to ignore in practice... like not losing your temper with customers...

 

[Kamilah Hauptmann]

But conveys so much!

 

[Essence Lumin]

Nearly 10 years before writing Alice in Wonderland, Lewis Carroll had some etiquette advice:

In proceeding to the dining-room, the gentleman gives one arm to the lady he escorts—it is unusual to offer both.

To use a fork with your soup, intimating at the same time to your hostess that you are reserving the spoon for the beefsteaks, is a practice wholly exploded.

It is always allowable to ask for artichoke jelly with your boild venison; however there are houses where this is not supplied.

As a general rule, do not kick the shins of the opposite gentleman under the table, if personally unacquainted with him: your pleasantry is liable to be misunderstood—a circumstance at all times unpleasant.

 

[Noodles]

But conveys so much!

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[Noodles]

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Good god I actually noticed this random string of emojis almost tells a little store about the dangers of brocolli.

Like "Having a pristine time, until the hospital after eating brocolli, what could it be? What could it be??

Oh just needed to brush the teeth.

What a funny problem.

Lucky idea, no more brocolli, it might mean death.