By the way, there was some kind of column in the New York Times some weeks ago, where a 30 year old woman - employee of the NYT - described what should be her first romantic encounter with a 24 year old man. Well, at least this was her plan.
In reality 6 years meant that those two individuals were light years apart: the woman would have really much enjoyed, if the man would have taken the initiative. But in reality he always asked first "is it ok, when I touch you?", "is it ok when I pull down your trousers?", "is it ok when I look at your breasts?" and so on, and even though she encouraged him to just go on, she'll tell him for sure when he's doing something bad, he just went on with this approach, which just for her killed the whole mood and encounter.
Later she was torn apart: on the one hand she appreciated his concerns, because the average male is far more powerful than the average female, on the other hand it was exactly this what for her killed the whole kaboom. So in the end they just cuddled - somewhat.
Maybe I am going to be able to locate this text someday again - it was an interesting read, though, which explains many of the problems.
Yeah, this is kind of what I was alluding to in my above post. The old way to do things actually did result in a horrifying amount of non consensual sex. ...but I think many agree that scaring men into being so timid is having unintended side effects.
"The sex recession" talked about in OP is partly due to technology killing social skills, like the link talked about, but a lot of it is also because men became more aware of the damage they could do when doing it wrong.
We've given men so much information on what not to do, many are totally bamboozled on what to do. I've had to give men I know in SL A LOT of instruction on how to approach women and when it's okay to stop testing for how agreeable she is at EVERY step. I didn't do this to teach a class, I did it so I'd have people to RP with...
I think there is a desperate need for public education on how to approach people romantically the right way. There is just way too much bad information out there. If you try to find out how to pick up women you are likely to run into crap like:
1) Older relatives who got married when social pressure pushed people to settle down, and really have no idea how to woo people because they never had to. Note that I'm not saying no older people know how to do it right, just that a lot of young people got bad/over simplified information passed down to them.
2) PUA (Pick up artists). They are often full of horrible information. A lot of misogynistic and pseudo scientific explanations for why women like certain things. Still, I've at times referred guy friends to carefully selected pick up resources (usually after rewriting them) because there is some good advice. Sometimes having a system like this gives men the confidence to just do SOMETHING when they'd otherwise hide.
3) Abstinence only educators. I don't need to expand on this one.
4) I always insist to guy friends that most feminists aren't like this, but women like Andrea Dworkin are LOUD.