The conversation proceeded to why soup-bringing relationships weren’t more common. “You’re supposed to have so much before you can get into a relationship,” one woman offered. Another said that when she was in high school, her parents, who are both professionals with advanced degrees, had discouraged relationships on the grounds that they might diminish her focus. Even today, in graduate school, she was finding the attitude hard to shake. “Now I need to finish school, I need to get a practice going, I need to do this and this, and then I’ll think about love. But by 30, you’re like, What is love? What’s it like to be in love?”
“In my own conversations, men and women alike spoke of a new tentativeness and hesitancy. One woman who described herself as a passionate feminist said she felt empathy for the pressure that heterosexual dating puts on men. “I think I owe it to them, in this current cultural moment particularly, to try to treat them like they’re human beings taking a risk talking to a stranger,” she wrote me. “There are a lot of lonely, confused people out there, who have no idea what to do or how to date.””
Sex seems more fraught now. This problem has no single source; the world has changed in so many ways, so quickly. In time, maybe, we will rethink some things: The abysmal state of sex education, which was once a joke but is now, in the age of porn, a disgrace. The dysfunctional relationships so many of us have with our phones and social media, to the detriment of our relationships with humans. Efforts to “protect” teenagers from most everything, including romance, leaving them ill-equipped for both the miseries and the joys of adulthood.
From 1991 to 2017, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s Youth Risk Behavior Survey finds, the percentage of high-school students who’d had intercourse dropped from 54 to 40 percent. In other words, in the space of a generation, sex has gone from something most high-school students have experienced to something most haven’t.
Yeah, this is kind of what I was alluding to in my above post. The old way to do things actually did result in a horrifying amount of non consensual sex. ...but I think many agree that scaring men into being so timid is having unintended side effects.By the way, there was some kind of column in the New York Times some weeks ago, where a 30 year old woman - employee of the NYT - described what should be her first romantic encounter with a 24 year old man. Well, at least this was her plan.
In reality 6 years meant that those two individuals were light years apart: the woman would have really much enjoyed, if the man would have taken the initiative. But in reality he always asked first "is it ok, when I touch you?", "is it ok when I pull down your trousers?", "is it ok when I look at your breasts?" and so on, and even though she encouraged him to just go on, she'll tell him for sure when he's doing something bad, he just went on with this approach, which just for her killed the whole mood and encounter.
Later she was torn apart: on the one hand she appreciated his concerns, because the average male is far more powerful than the average female, on the other hand it was exactly this what for her killed the whole kaboom. So in the end they just cuddled - somewhat.
Maybe I am going to be able to locate this text someday again - it was an interesting read, though, which explains many of the problems.
Vague. More like, what about ugly people? I guess I can imagine beautiful people because their attractiveness can excite others. Maybe this decline is due to beautiful people adopting ugly people activities.Huh? Yes, yes they do.
Meh. Get on my level. I was 21 when I married to 43. =^-^=...In reality 6 years meant that those two individuals were light years apart...
Once again, huh? What are "ugly people activities"? Not having as good of a skin care routine? Everybody does the same stuff these days more or less, both pretty and non pretty people bang, use social media, play video games, etc..Vague. More like, what about ugly people? I guess I can imagine beautiful people because their attractiveness can excite others. Maybe this decline is due to beautiful people adopting ugly people activities.
Maybe there's a correlation with the 'fake gamer faux nerd' scene?
The more time beautiful people spend doing ugly people activities, the less time they have for anything else?
That's what I'm saying. Maybe there's a correlation between the popularization of nerdy things and the reduction of sex.Once again, huh? What are "ugly people activities"? Not having as good of a skin care routine? Everybody does the same stuff these days more or less, both pretty and non pretty people bang, use social media, play video games, etc..