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- Sep 24, 2018
- Central Florida
- SL Rez
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Safety first - I don't think confronting strangers really helps anyway. Confronting family, friends and co-workers who say or do something out of line, actually might make a difference, but strangers, not so much. Unless they are actually screaming at or berating another person (which there is no choice but to step in and defend the person they're bullying).Mrs. Beebo and I had an emotionally fraught discussion yesterday. She came back from running an errand, angry and upset, after seeing an incredibly racist decal plastered on the back of a pickup truck in the Lowe's parking lot. She feels strongly that this sort of overt, in-your-face racism needs to be confronted, and I agree with her, but the question is how to do so effectively and constructively.
My wife had wanted to confront the driver and tell him how offensive that decal was, but the truck was gone by the time she finished shopping (for which I was actually relieved). I pointed out that he's already quite aware that it's offensive -- after all, that's the POINT of it. Best case scenario is that being told that it's offensive will probably make his day for having offended some "librul" (bonus points that it's a elderly dyke who is offended). Worst case scenario is that the driver reacts violently to her.
But, as she so rightly stated, NOT saying anything is no longer acceptable either.
We're stumped as to how to deal with this in an ethical way. We live in a deeply red state that went overwhelmingly for Trump and a populace that takes everyday racism in stride (when not actively applauding it). Any gesture of defiance is unlikely to garner much support, or so we assume, and it's that assumption that itself is repressive. On the other hand, what gesture do you make? How do you meaningfully fight back? I can easily envision how to speak up in the middle of a conversation with someone, but not how to deal with the in-your-face offensive public speech of a decal.
Mrs. Beebo has a temper and (unlike me) is not the least bit apprehensive about confrontation. I can easily see her berating some absolute stranger for being an offensive racist, just as I can easily imagine him beating the shit out of her (she's a 5'2" 70-year-old woman with massive health problems). Is it cowardly to worry about safety? Does a brave stand accomplish anything?
We're really grappling with the nitty gritty of response. Any thoughts?
With as many of these assholes that have guns and are so willing to "hold their ground" it could be very dangerous.
Regarding offensive bumper stickers, you could order some "COEXIST or TOLERANCE" bumper stickers and keep them in your glove compartment. Then when you see a blatantly racist, sexist or offensive bumper sticker, wait for them to go into the store and plaster their old nasty racist sticker with a new tolerance sticker.
I'm not saying I've done it ... but I'm not saying I haven't done it either ...